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Friday, April 29, 2016

My Dad's Birthday Today

Happy  Birthday  to  you  dear  Papa...  How much  I  wish  that you  would have been  here in  this world with  us. We all miss you  a lot, I  really wish that the times should have been  different, and you can come to  visit  me and stay  with  us. Spend good times with  your grandkids. They remember you from  your last  visit.

My  Papa would have been  75 years old today. My  Dad passed away January  of 2013,  he was gone very  soon,  but then  I  cannot  say  very  soon he actually  really  suffered enough. I  don't  wish that he should have suffered even  a single day more then he actually  did. My  dad was diagnosed with Blood Cancer in simple language. Disease was diagnosed at a very  advanced level. He passed away with  a month  of being  diagnosed. During  this one month  we nearly  lost  him once.

I  don't  want the focus to  my thoughts on  his disease or his suffering. As till the very  end he didn't complain he kept  on  telling  everyone I  am  fine (main theek hoon). He was very  self sufficient even  working as much  as he can till  very  end. I  hope I  am  as strong  as he was. He lived a very  good life.  He was a very  happy  person. A Mechanical  Engineer,  very  hands on. He saw many  ups and downs in  career. He was really  good at  what  he did, except  judging  people. He joined his hands with some bad and selfish partners in  his business. He was able to  stand up  straight  from  the losses,  and was positive and restarted his business.  I  have learned a lot  from  him  about  tools and how to  use. He was also very  Tech  Savvy. He loved to  read and educate himself,  Newspapers Magazines Self help books. He taught  himself how to  use computer and was very  proficient at  it. His communication skills were really  good. 

He enjoyed Traveling,  Driving, Good Food,  Music, Dancing. He was a popular person  in  the society,  very  social. He tried his best to help  people as much  as he can. He used to  donate blood often. Education  was very  important to  him,  he always told us to  educate ourselves more. He wanted to  see his kids in  good positions. I  don't  know some times I  feel  we  did not  talk as much  as we should have talked. We didn't each other how much  we loved each other. I  don't  have any  regrets but  I  think I  could have done more,  or we should have done little more.

I  miss you  dearly... on  this day  and everyday.



Thursday, April 28, 2016

Fantasia - A Book Club

Fantasia https://m.facebook.com/fantasia.bookclub/

Fantasia is a page I  created to  keep  a bucket-list of books I  have read.  I  wanted this page to  be a common  ground for the people to post any  books they  read and enjoyed and also  circle back to  the page when  they are looking  for a book to  read.

Fantasia is a Latin  word which  means Fantasy  Land,  when  I  heard this word I  thought  perfect  don't  we all  go into  a fantasy  land when  we read a book.  Our mind starts generating  these imaginary  places and people in  our mind. I  don't  know if everyone does but  some times I  also  start thinking  which  actors will  be best  suited for these roles,  if the movie is made based on  the book  I  am  reading.

This weekend there was a huge sale by  Half price books where the whole place was filled by  books. Wow,  so  many  books under one roof and all  books $2.00 and under. But  its was so  hard to  pick  few books out  of so  many. So  many books I  wanted to  read. So  many  authors I  would like to  read. I  came back  home with a box full  of books. I  really  feel  good seeing  that my  kids also love for reading. Its a very  nice feeling  when  they are trying  to  suggest  an  author or a book to  read. " Mom read this you  will like it." " Mom he is such  a great  author you  will  really  enjoy  reading  his books".

I  like all kinds of book,  but  dark  and depressing. I  love reading  Mystery,  Romance, Amish, Thrillers,  some memoirs and autobiographies.    I  also  enjoy  books from  different Countries.  these book  give an  inside glimpse of how people live in  different  parts of the world, there culture.  Many  a times I  am so  thankful to be born  in  a good family,  got married in  a good family,  they  helped me make better decisions and helped me be an  independent person. I am  a citizen  of a country,   Where I  always have independence to  choose my  career, path of  my  life. 

I  always refer to  the website https://www.goodreads.com/ to  get  a review of the books I  want  to  read. This website is such a  good resource to  refer to for a reader  like me.

Wednesday, April 27, 2016

Clean People in most Dirty City

Clean People in  most  Dirty City : We Indians Claim  ourselves to  be the cleanest  people bathing  everyday  sometimes more then once, keeping  our  houses so  clean, even  making  fresh  food three times a day. Then  Why  Delhi  is the most  polluted City  of the World.

Doesn't  make any  sense right,  National  Geographic published an  article about  our city  claiming  it to  be the dirtiest. I  was born  and raised in Delhi. Meri  Delhi Meri  Shaan,  I  guess its sounds good and looks good when  printed on  a wall. It  breaks my  heart to  see Delhi  getting  nastier.

"From the skies above to the ground below, Delhi is polluted. This Indian territory, which includes the capital city of New Delhi, is half the size of Rhode Island, and is home to twice the population of New York City"  -  National  Geographic.

The Yamuna river, by all pollution parameters, is dead. It has just not been officially cremated.” - Sunita Narain is the director of the Centre for Science and Environment (CSE),

I  think  its high time to  come out  of houses and clean  the neighborhood. If everyone does their share it  wont  be so  bad. In  one of the episodes of Styamev Jayatey some one talked about  how to  recycle waste. So  we have lot  of brains but we don't  want  to  use. May  be it  wont  have a positive impact  on  any  political  party. If its not  Cricket  or Bollywood we don't  care. We can  suffer and let  the next  generations suffer. No  clean  rivers left no  clean  land left  and no  clean  air to  breath. Plant  trees but  how many,  we don't  want  to  change our  habits but  want trees to  keep  on  cleaning  environment.

When  was the best time to  plan  to  tree,  20 years ago. When  is the next  best  time to  plant  a tree,  today.

May  be its easy  to read and write from  my  clean  office. Most  I  am  doing  is penning  my  thoughts here. At least  we look  for trash  cans when we visit India,  try  to  do  the right  thing.  But  and end up  throwing  trash  here and there when  there's no other option. So many  big  Malls beautiful  landscapes and so  many  monuments,  all going  to  waste if we are not even  appreciating  our  surroundings.  Everyone says the same, what  can  we do. Normal  people are doing  what  they  can  do  clean  there homes. Why  do  I  feel  everything  is so  political,  that nothing  will  happen  if its not  beneficial  to  any political  party. Clean  India,  was just  a campaign just  for election. Why  we don't  see any  efforts except  basic pictures clicked with a broom  every  now and then just for newspaper.

If you  look  at other countries in  the world that are  taking  major steps to  use solar and cleaner  energy  resources. I think  some major steps need to  be taken  to  help  people breath  better. Breaks my  heart to  see Delhi  suffering. It  is not  limited to  Delhi  if we are polluting  the air we are polluting  Global atmosphere.



 

A recycler looks for metal in Bhalswa, a giant garbage dump that burns constantly, emitting toxic fumes.


 
Impoverished people in India often have no housing options other than living next to open sewers, like this one in Noida, a city on the border of New Delhi.
 

 

Monday, April 25, 2016

New Learnings

“The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you'll go.”
Dr. Seuss, I Can Read With My Eyes Shut!


This morning  on  the 10th  day of January 2014,  I  feel  like I  have to  enroll  into  some classes again  and "LEARN" some new things, I did last  year  loved it. It was hard I  was complaining  as well,  why  did I  got  my  self into  it,  but  once it  was over  I  was happy  I  did it.

I  have been reading  books written  by Lisa See, she is an  awesome writer and she writes with  so  much  simplicity.

Above said was written in  2014 but was sitting  as draft to  be published. I  read and decided to post this today, as it  made me feel  that I  am  making  progress in  achieving  what  I  had wished for.

This is interesting  to  look back and see,  that I  am  doing  what  I  wanted to  do  I  felt the need to  learn,  this craving  to learn  has helped me  in  my  professional  growth. I  have achieved few milestones in  my  career  as well. I  have taken a lot  more educational classes since then.  I  have started my  learning  journey, and I  will  make sure that I  don't  stop learning.

I  am  also loving  leisure reading, Fictions. I  also have started listening  to  the audio books and enjoying  it. Created a Facebook Page "Fantasia" to  post about the book I  am reading, what  I  think  about  it  or some times with an  interesting  quote out of that book.

I  enjoy  looking  back  to  see the books I  have read and enjoyed. The list goes on ...

To be a better person :)



I  want  to  write often  than  this. I  will  try my  best  to  be frequent. Will  try  is better then  promises,  this  reminds me of a dialogue from an  old movie now "Vaadey  hamesha toot  jatey  hai  aur Koshisheyn kamyaab  hoti  hai" (Promises are easily  broken  but  when  we try  to  do  some thing we succeed).

In my  last  post  I  had mentioned that I  would like to  be a better person, and not  judge people. The 2nd is hard to  achieve but  one day, I  am sure I  will be able to  achieve that as well.

It  took  me two  years to  realize  better person  to  who. I  think  I  have to  be a better person  to  me and my  family. I  can  be a better person  to  the world and not  able to  please everyone no  matter how hard I  try. Saw this quote few days ago  on  Facebook "You are not everyone's cup of tea", you  cannot  be everyone's Friend.

In  trying  to  be a better person,  I am learning to  slow down  and appreciate my  surroundings. We live in  such a  beautiful  world. Once I  started looking  I see beauty  in  every thing Clouds,  Lake, creek, plants,  Trees,  buildings, sunrise, sunset etc. etc.

Saheli, still  haven't  found any  that I  can  talk  to,  without thinking or being  judged.