I know everything I have done everything

I  know everything I have done everything !!

Don't we all sometimes meet some people,  who assume and want you to believe that they know every thing. They  have done everything  been  everywhere.
Any thing you  can  think of has happened to them or they  know some one who has been  through.

I  have met  a few people of this kind,  and seems like I am meeting  more and more lately. I  might  have this in me a little I wonder sometimes but then,  I  also  know that I  don't  make up stuff. I also  give the person  who's talking there attention  that they need. Seems like my  tolerance level  has gone down for this kind of people. Not that I have stopped any one from  doing  what they do. I  have stopped reacting to the blabber. I wonder sometime,  is it some kind of complex in people that people have to prove that they know more than  the other person. Just to prove something that you  cannot know more than  me. Which  might  be completely  wrong. I  am not  a psychologist, but I have trying  to  analyze people,  what are they  getting out of this. Does it mean  that people are so  desperate to  get the limelight that they can  steal from you.

I have also met some that, you  change your picture,  they will change it right away. You  try to celebrate something they have to  do  it before you even  if it's just a day  before yours. You wear a color they will too very next day. You go  some where,  they will also go there. Your kids do  something,  there kids can do better. How many friends you  got they have to  be their friends too. They have to have more friends than you.  Come on  stop it now had enough,  we are not competing against anyone. If you want to  compete do  it in good stuff,  I  am  unable to  volunteer,  why  don't you do that. Go help people show the world how much  better person you are. I  like to  read and learn  why don't you learn and study more. Why  not try to be a better person instead of just running after illusions.

Some are so  full of themselves that you  can tell they are lying and making  up stuff. They know all about technology, music, people, cocktails, martial arts,  travel, medical stuff,  discoveries, babies, elderly, work (not just mine but everyone's). They know how to talk, how to  walk, how to handle things. I  guess there's nothing left to learn any more. I  want to ask Is there anything  that you would like to know that you don't know.  All you  can  do  is just  listen  with a smile on  your face. I  am  still  trying  to  learn  not to  get bothered with people like that. They  might have a complex in  them  that they have to feed to make them feel better. Again  just my  assumption. One of my aim in life is not to judge people.

God please help me.. and keep me on the right path. I don't  want to make anyone feel small and less valued. As everyone has their own  journey of life and their own story to write.

 

No Girl only Boy

Few comments make me mad and I  want to  scream  this is wrong.

I  met  a very  nice lady at  work. She is a Temp helping  out  with  a project. She is from  Morocco, looks nice and very courteous. I  helped her  with the scanner and she said "shukriya"  (Thank you in  Urdu). I  happened to  be in  a room  with  her  for a while and we started chatting  as women do. Exchanged names how long  we have lived in  the city  and all. Then  she asked me how many  kids I  have,  and I  asked her the same. She said only one. When  asked Boy  or a Girl,  her answer  made me mad.

She said Boy  only  no girl,  this is not  a good world to  have a Girl. I  never thought this is an  awful world to  have a girl. There might be some bad people in  this world and some women do  go  through hardships. Should that prevent  us from  having  girls. What  are you  going  to  do  when  there's only  men in  this world. We should try  to  make this a better place for our kids. Boy  or a Girl. If she already  has this perception, isn't  she unintentionally teaching  her  kid a wrong  thing. This is beyond my  imagination that people so  much  educated and living  in this modern  world are thinking  like this and a women is so  afraid to being  another  women in  this world. I  wanted to  ask what  will  happen  with  your husband if she wasn't born  and she would have not  her  son in  this world.

What  are Daddy's doing, Isn't  a  girl  supposed to  be his daddy's princess. Do  men not  want  to  have a daughter and cherish her. These are the times when  I  am very  thankful to  be born  in  the country and family  I  am  born  in. I  was always given  the freedom  to study any subject. I  had freedom  to  choose my  career. Always had freedom to speak  and think,  before and after marriage. I  am  also  blessed to  be married in  a very good family. Where My  mother-in-law a very strong  women raise very  strong daughters. My sister-in-laws are also carrier oriented independent women.

Don't let  few incidents scare you. Its a beautiful world out there. Daughter is mom's best friend, Have daughters and raise them to  be independent  and confident women. Who  can  make this world a much  a wonderful place for all of you.

Slim vs Fit

I  also  dream  that one day  I  will  have the so  called best figure. I  will  be able to  wear  those short  dresses  "by  short  I  mean  short  at  waist"

Like everyone I  have my  own  struggles with my weight and health. I  won't  say  too bad, but  enough to  make me do  something  about  it. I  actually  gained a lot  after birth of my  second kid. Now I  look  back  and think  why  did I  let  this happen  to  me. I  lived in  such a beautiful  part of Germany. I  should have walked my  weight  off, and I  love walking. but  I  guess easier to  look  back  and say  things. I  had a toddler with  me lot of house-hold stuff to  take care and all. Sounds like excuses to  me now but that used to  be  my  reasoning.

I  always knew that I  want  to  maintain a healthy  weight. I  don't diet, I  always try  to eat  healthy. so  I  am  not  those people who keeps staring  at a piece of chocolate and keep thinking  about  when  I  will  stop  dieting. I  will  actually  pick  up  the chocolate and eat it. Portion  control  is some thing  that I  am  working on. I  should not  eat  the second piece of chocolate. I  don't  want  to  fit into  a dress or swim suit  for few days. I  want  to  feel good about  self and stay that way.

I  love carbs and who doesn't,  I  eat  bread,  tortillas,  potatoes,  rice in  moderation just  because it causes me bloating  and stomach ache.

I  exercise,  I  love doing  Zumba and elliptical in  the Gym. I  enjoy  group  exercises with  loud music as they  don't  make me  feel  that  I  am  working  out. I run every now and then. Not  a big  fan  of running, but  I  have done  my 2nd  10K and am planning to continue them  every year.

I  hate getting  on  a scale,  I  don't want  my  life to  be obsessed by  number. I  know when  my  pants don't  fit, and I  know when they  get  loose. So without scale I try  to  manage.


I  would like to  call my  self that I  am on  path to  getting  fit not getting  Slim.

Pandora or Spotify

It really  amazes me when  my  little boy who's not  even  a teen  knows more about the technology. I  am  not  an  ignorant mom I  think  I know my  fair share about the ever changing  technology. Now on  second thoughts I  don't  think  I  can  keep  up  with  my  kids.

Son  : Mom what  do  you  use for radio?
Mom : Pandora
Son : Have you  tried Spotify?
Mom : No why  same internet  radio ?
Son : Don't  you  get  ads or Do  you  have the paid one with  no  ads?
Mom : I  do  get ads they  are annoying  but oh  well
Son : Try  Spotify
Mom : Why  does that have no  ads
Son : It does but  once you  watch  an  ad you  don't  get  ads for next  30 minutes. So  its better to  watch  one ad and be ad free for 30 minutes. Isn't that nice, try  it  next  time.

Mom is sold but still too  lazy  to  download a new app and mess with it. May  be I  will  get  to  it  some day.

with this he now walks in  the house with  tablet playing  his favorite songs,  showing  off trying  to  play  DJ with the volume buttons.

This also  makes me think  of my  mom who still  like listen  to  the real  radio. Old school with  batteries in  the radio  off the air not  on  internet.

I  don't  even  think kids these day  can understand such  thing  exists,  people can  survive without internet

Me watching different generations and comparing with a sigh !!

A beautiful women dosen't flirt she simply smiles

I  read it  some where,  and loved it.

Isn't that true, beauty lies in the eye of beholder. Just  believing  that I  am  beautiful  gives so much confidence. I had seen  an  ad for Dove,  when they  were telling  people that they  look  beautiful. Just  by  listening  to  this people had a genuine smile on their  face and they  looked pretty  or handsome. I  think  every  one's beautiful in  a way.  We live in  this beautiful world. Once you  start looking  for beauty you  will  start seeing  in  every where. Well this is about beautiful women will  flirt or not. I  think  when  you  believe in  your self you  don't  need to  flirt. You  will radiate so  much positivity and charm  that people will  notice with out  flirting.

Not that flirting,  not  bad if it  works for some. We can  also  say that Smile can  be just another way for flirting (hansi  to  phansi) ..

I  believe in  keep  smiling  and believe in  your self. There's lot to  do  in  this world don't  get  lost in  appearances. The Soul and thoughts should be beautiful.

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Road Rage

When  you  hear  road  rage,  you  think  of people speeding racing on  the road. In  my  case Road Rage is when  I  have to  honk  at  people. I don't  speed or race with  any one. I  commute almost  two  hours a day, on  weekdays. I  also  like to  keep  a safe distance from  the car  in  front  of me. I  am  also  not  a very  much lane changer. As I  have realized that every time I  change my  lane the other  one starts going  faster,  So  I  hardy mess with  changing  lanes often. I  would like to  admit  that I  don't  love driving, as much  as I  l enjoy sitting on  the passenger seat. Not that I  hate driving.  I  commute everyday  and try  not  to  complain  about  it.

During  this time I  really  enjoy  listing  to  FM or I have become regular  with  listening  to  my audiobooks, I  don't  mind it,  is  what  I  am  trying  to  say. Then  I  see people going  crazily on  the road  non stop changing  lanes,  keeping no distance  from  the car in  front  of them. People I  really cannot  stand is the ones who cut  in  front  of you without  an indicator or without  enough space for them  to  move in  the lane. That's when  I  usually  honk, but do  they  even  care or listen. So  my  guess is I  honk  for my  satisfaction, as they are not  going  to  change.

So  one day  I  decided,  let  me control  myself and let  them  be and not  honk  at  them  at  all. It  was really  hard at  first  but  then  I  got  used to  ignoring  those people. I  take this as an  opportunity  to  teach  myself that if I  can control  my  self only  this much  that will  help  me in  long  run. Eventually  I  will  be able to  ignore much  bigger things that I  don't  have control  over.

Just  my  thoughts ....Keep driving and stay  safe  

My Dad's Birthday Today

Happy  Birthday  to  you  dear  Papa...  How much  I  wish  that you  would have been  here in  this world with  us. We all miss you  a lot, I  really wish that the times should have been  different, and you can come to  visit  me and stay  with  us. Spend good times with  your grandkids. They remember you from  your last  visit.

My  Papa would have been  75 years old today. My  Dad passed away January  of 2013,  he was gone very  soon,  but then  I  cannot  say  very  soon he actually  really  suffered enough. I  don't  wish that he should have suffered even  a single day more then he actually  did. My  dad was diagnosed with Blood Cancer in simple language. Disease was diagnosed at a very  advanced level. He passed away with  a month  of being  diagnosed. During  this one month  we nearly  lost  him once.

I  don't  want the focus to  my thoughts on  his disease or his suffering. As till the very  end he didn't complain he kept  on  telling  everyone I  am  fine (main theek hoon). He was very  self sufficient even  working as much  as he can till  very  end. I  hope I  am  as strong  as he was. He lived a very  good life.  He was a very  happy  person. A Mechanical  Engineer,  very  hands on. He saw many  ups and downs in  career. He was really  good at  what  he did, except  judging  people. He joined his hands with some bad and selfish partners in  his business. He was able to  stand up  straight  from  the losses,  and was positive and restarted his business.  I  have learned a lot  from  him  about  tools and how to  use. He was also very  Tech  Savvy. He loved to  read and educate himself,  Newspapers Magazines Self help books. He taught  himself how to  use computer and was very  proficient at  it. His communication skills were really  good. 

He enjoyed Traveling,  Driving, Good Food,  Music, Dancing. He was a popular person  in  the society,  very  social. He tried his best to help  people as much  as he can. He used to  donate blood often. Education  was very  important to  him,  he always told us to  educate ourselves more. He wanted to  see his kids in  good positions. I  don't  know some times I  feel  we  did not  talk as much  as we should have talked. We didn't each other how much  we loved each other. I  don't  have any  regrets but  I  think I  could have done more,  or we should have done little more.

I  miss you  dearly... on  this day  and everyday.

Fantasia - A Book Club

Fantasia https://m.facebook.com/fantasia.bookclub/

Fantasia is a page I  created to  keep  a bucket-list of books I  have read.  I  wanted this page to  be a common  ground for the people to post any  books they  read and enjoyed and also  circle back to  the page when  they are looking  for a book to  read.

Fantasia is a Latin  word which  means Fantasy  Land,  when  I  heard this word I  thought  perfect  don't  we all  go into  a fantasy  land when  we read a book.  Our mind starts generating  these imaginary  places and people in  our mind. I  don't  know if everyone does but  some times I  also  start thinking  which  actors will  be best  suited for these roles,  if the movie is made based on  the book  I  am  reading.

This weekend there was a huge sale by  Half price books where the whole place was filled by  books. Wow,  so  many  books under one roof and all  books $2.00 and under. But  its was so  hard to  pick  few books out  of so  many. So  many books I  wanted to  read. So  many  authors I  would like to  read. I  came back  home with a box full  of books. I  really  feel  good seeing  that my  kids also love for reading. Its a very  nice feeling  when  they are trying  to  suggest  an  author or a book to  read. " Mom read this you  will like it." " Mom he is such  a great  author you  will  really  enjoy  reading  his books".

I  like all kinds of book,  but  dark  and depressing. I  love reading  Mystery,  Romance, Amish, Thrillers,  some memoirs and autobiographies.    I  also  enjoy  books from  different Countries.  these book  give an  inside glimpse of how people live in  different  parts of the world, there culture.  Many  a times I  am so  thankful to be born  in  a good family,  got married in  a good family,  they  helped me make better decisions and helped me be an  independent person. I am  a citizen  of a country,   Where I  always have independence to  choose my  career, path of  my  life. 

I  always refer to  the website https://www.goodreads.com/ to  get  a review of the books I  want  to  read. This website is such a  good resource to  refer to for a reader  like me.

Clean People in most Dirty City

Clean People in  most  Dirty City : We Indians Claim  ourselves to  be the cleanest  people bathing  everyday  sometimes more then once, keeping  our  houses so  clean, even  making  fresh  food three times a day. Then  Why  Delhi  is the most  polluted City  of the World.

Doesn't  make any  sense right,  National  Geographic published an  article about  our city  claiming  it to  be the dirtiest. I  was born  and raised in Delhi. Meri  Delhi Meri  Shaan,  I  guess its sounds good and looks good when  printed on  a wall. It  breaks my  heart to  see Delhi  getting  nastier.

"From the skies above to the ground below, Delhi is polluted. This Indian territory, which includes the capital city of New Delhi, is half the size of Rhode Island, and is home to twice the population of New York City"  -  National  Geographic.

“The Yamuna river, by all pollution parameters, is dead. It has just not been officially cremated.” - Sunita Narain is the director of the Centre for Science and Environment (CSE),

I  think  its high time to  come out  of houses and clean  the neighborhood. If everyone does their share it  wont  be so  bad. In  one of the episodes of Styamev Jayatey some one talked about  how to  recycle waste. So  we have lot  of brains but we don't  want  to  use. May  be it  wont  have a positive impact  on  any  political  party. If its not  Cricket  or Bollywood we don't  care. We can  suffer and let  the next  generations suffer. No  clean  rivers left no  clean  land left  and no  clean  air to  breath. Plant  trees but  how many,  we don't  want  to  change our  habits but  want trees to  keep  on  cleaning  environment.

When  was the best time to  plan  to  tree,  20 years ago. When  is the next  best  time to  plant  a tree,  today.

May  be its easy  to read and write from  my  clean  office. Most  I  am  doing  is penning  my  thoughts here. At least  we look  for trash  cans when we visit India,  try  to  do  the right  thing.  But  and end up  throwing  trash  here and there when  there's no other option. So many  big  Malls beautiful  landscapes and so  many  monuments,  all going  to  waste if we are not even  appreciating  our  surroundings.  Everyone says the same, what  can  we do. Normal  people are doing  what  they  can  do  clean  there homes. Why  do  I  feel  everything  is so  political,  that nothing  will  happen  if its not  beneficial  to  any political  party. Clean  India,  was just  a campaign just  for election. Why  we don't  see any  efforts except  basic pictures clicked with a broom  every  now and then just for newspaper.

If you  look  at other countries in  the world that are  taking  major steps to  use solar and cleaner  energy  resources. I think  some major steps need to  be taken  to  help  people breath  better. Breaks my  heart to  see Delhi  suffering. It  is not  limited to  Delhi  if we are polluting  the air we are polluting  Global atmosphere.

 

A recycler looks for metal in Bhalswa, a giant garbage dump that burns constantly, emitting toxic fumes.

 Impoverished people in India often have no housing options other than living next to open sewers, like this one in Noida, a city on the border of New Delhi.
 
 

New Learnings

“The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you'll go.”
― Dr. Seuss, I Can Read With My Eyes Shut!


This morning  on  the 10th  day of January 2014,  I  feel  like I  have to  enroll  into  some classes again  and "LEARN" some new things, I did last  year  loved it. It was hard I  was complaining  as well,  why  did I  got  my  self into  it,  but  once it  was over  I  was happy  I  did it.

I  have been reading  books written  by Lisa See, she is an  awesome writer and she writes with  so  much  simplicity.

Above said was written in  2014 but was sitting  as draft to  be published. I  read and decided to post this today, as it  made me feel  that I  am  making  progress in  achieving  what  I  had wished for.

This is interesting  to  look back and see,  that I  am  doing  what  I  wanted to  do  I  felt the need to  learn,  this craving  to learn  has helped me  in  my  professional  growth. I  have achieved few milestones in  my  career  as well. I  have taken a lot  more educational classes since then.  I  have started my  learning  journey, and I  will  make sure that I  don't  stop learning.

I  am  also loving  leisure reading, Fictions. I  also have started listening  to  the audio books and enjoying  it. Created a Facebook Page "Fantasia" to  post about the book I  am reading, what  I  think  about  it  or some times with an  interesting  quote out of that book.

I  enjoy  looking  back  to  see the books I  have read and enjoyed. The list goes on ...

To be a better person :)

I  want  to  write often  than  this. I  will  try my  best  to  be frequent. Will  try  is better then  promises,  this  reminds me of a dialogue from an  old movie now "Vaadey  hamesha toot  jatey  hai  aur Koshisheyn kamyaab  hoti  hai" (Promises are easily  broken  but  when  we try  to  do  some thing we succeed).

In my  last  post  I  had mentioned that I  would like to  be a better person, and not  judge people. The 2nd is hard to  achieve but  one day, I  am sure I  will be able to  achieve that as well.

It  took  me two  years to  realize  better person  to  who. I  think  I  have to  be a better person  to  me and my  family. I  can  be a better person  to  the world and not  able to  please everyone no  matter how hard I  try. Saw this quote few days ago  on  Facebook "You are not everyone's cup of tea", you  cannot  be everyone's Friend.

In  trying  to  be a better person,  I am learning to  slow down  and appreciate my  surroundings. We live in  such a  beautiful  world. Once I  started looking  I see beauty  in  every thing Clouds,  Lake, creek, plants,  Trees,  buildings, sunrise, sunset etc. etc.

Saheli, still  haven't  found any  that I  can  talk  to,  without thinking or being  judged.